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Conflict Style Quiz: How Do You Fight in Relationships? | Free Test - South Denver Therapy

What's Your Conflict Style?

And Is It Helping or Hurting Your Relationship?

Discover Your Unique Conflict Style

We all handle disagreements differently. Some of us shut down, others fight to win, and some try to keep everyone happy.

This quick assessment will help you understand your natural conflict style and show you how it might be affecting your relationship – for better or worse.

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    Professional Disclaimer: This assessment is for educational purposes only and does not replace professional therapy or diagnosis. If you're experiencing significant relationship distress, consider reaching out to a qualified therapist.

    Frequently Asked Questions About Conflict Styles

    What are the five conflict styles and when are they useful?

    Avoiding, accommodating, competing, compromising, and collaborating. Competing helps in emergencies, compromising suits medium-stakes issues, and collaborating fits big, recurring topics where both sets of needs matter.

    How do I choose the right style for a situation?

    Match the style to stakes, time, and emotional bandwidth. Ask: “How important is this to each of us, and how fast do we need a decision?” Then choose the lightest style that protects the relationship and the goal.

    How do I use my default style without hurting the relationship?

    Name it (“I tend to avoid when stressed”) and add one balancing move. Avoiders share one feeling; competitors ask one curiosity question; accommodators voice one personal need; compromisers revisit long-term fit; collaborators set a time limit.

    How do partners with different styles succeed together?

    Agree on “rules of engagement” before tough talks: time limits, soft starts, no interruptions, and a plan for breaks. Afterward, debrief what worked and one improvement for next time.