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Fawn Response Quiz: Am I a People Pleaser? | Free Trauma Test | South Denver Therapy

Are You People-Pleasing or Just Being Nice?

Discover if your kindness might be a protective response

Understanding Your Response Patterns

We all want to be kind and considerate. But sometimes, what feels like "being nice" is actually a protective pattern that developed to keep us safe in challenging situations.

This gentle assessment will help you explore whether you might be experiencing the fawn response — a trauma response where we prioritize others' needs to avoid conflict or maintain connection.

🔒 Your Privacy Matters: This assessment is completely confidential. Your responses stay with you, and we're here to provide insight, not judgment.

Question 1 of 10
When someone seems upset with you, even slightly, how do you typically respond?
I immediately feel anxious and need to fix it right away
I feel very uncomfortable and usually try to smooth things over
I notice it but can usually let it be unless it's important
I'm okay with people being upset sometimes — it's part of life
Question 2 of 10
How often do you say "sorry" in your daily conversations?
Constantly — I apologize for things that aren't even my fault
Pretty often — I tend to over-apologize
Sometimes — mostly when it's appropriate
Only when I've actually done something wrong
Question 3 of 10
When making plans with friends or family, who usually decides what you'll do?
Always them — I go along with whatever they want
Usually them — I rarely voice my preferences
It's mixed — sometimes me, sometimes them
We take turns or decide together equally
Question 4 of 10
How do you feel about expressing disagreement or having a different opinion?
I avoid it completely — disagreement feels dangerous
Very uncomfortable — I usually keep quiet even when I disagree
A bit uncomfortable, but I can do it when needed
Fine — healthy disagreement is normal
Question 5 of 10
When someone asks for a favor you really don't have time for, what happens?
I always say yes and figure it out later, even if it hurts me
I usually say yes and feel resentful afterward
I sometimes say yes when I should say no
I can say no when I need to without much guilt
Question 6 of 10
How aware are you of other people's moods and emotions in a room?
Hyperaware — I'm constantly scanning for signs of displeasure
Very aware — I notice everything and feel responsible for it
Generally aware but not preoccupied with it
I notice but don't feel responsible for others' emotions
Question 7 of 10
If asked "What do you want for dinner?" how do you typically respond?
"Whatever you want is fine!" (even when I have preferences)
"I don't know, what sounds good to you?"
"How about X or Y?" (offering options)
I share what I'm actually craving
Question 8 of 10
How do you feel when someone expresses anger (not at you, just in general)?
Terrified — I need to calm them down immediately
Very anxious — I feel unsafe and want to help
Uncomfortable but I can handle it
It's okay — anger is a normal emotion
Question 9 of 10
Think about your closest relationships. Do you know what YOU need from them?
I honestly have no idea — I focus on what they need
It's fuzzy — I'm much clearer on their needs than mine
I have some idea but struggle to express it
Yes, and I can communicate my needs clearly
Question 10 of 10
After social interactions, how often do you replay conversations worrying you said something wrong?
Always — I analyze every word and gesture for hours
Often — I worry I upset someone without knowing
Sometimes, especially after difficult conversations
Rarely — I trust that people will tell me if something's wrong

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Note: This assessment is for educational purposes and self-reflection only. It's not a diagnostic tool or substitute for professional mental health evaluation. If you're struggling with relationship patterns or trauma responses, consider reaching out to a qualified therapist.

Frequently Asked Questions About Fawn Response

What is the fawn response?

A stress response where you appease others to avoid conflict or rejection, often ignoring your own needs.

Is being nice the same thing as fawning?

No. Kindness respects both people’s needs. Fawning trades your needs for approval.

How do I start setting boundaries?

Use short scripts like “I cannot this week. I can next Tuesday.” Keep your tone warm and clear.

Why do I feel guilty saying no?

Guilt is learned. It fades with practice as you see that relationships survive honest limits.