Is My Relationship In Trouble?
Take Our Free 5-Minute Quiz to Find Out
Every relationship has ups and downs. But sometimes it's hard to tell if what you're experiencing is normal or a sign of deeper problems. This quiz helps you see where your relationship stands.
Check Your Relationship Health
Answer honestly based on how things have been over the past few months, not just today.
How it works: You'll answer 18 questions about different parts of your relationship — communication, trust, intimacy, conflict, and shared goals. At the end, you'll get a personalized score and insights.
Your Results
Your Scores by Category
What's Next?
Based on your results, speaking with a couples therapist could help you build on your strengths and address areas of concern.
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This quiz measures six key areas that research shows are foundational to healthy relationships. Your score reflects how you perceive these areas right now — not a permanent verdict on your relationship.
Remember: even the healthiest relationships go through rough patches. What matters most is your willingness to work on things together. If you scored lower than you'd hoped, that's actually valuable information — it means you're aware something needs to change.
Many couples find that working with a couples counselor helps them break through patterns they couldn't change on their own. Understanding your attachment style can also provide insight into relationship dynamics.
Warning Signs Your Relationship May Be In Trouble
Sometimes we're so close to a situation that it's hard to see it clearly. Here are some red flags that often indicate deeper relationship issues:
If several of these resonate with you, it doesn't mean your relationship is doomed. It means you're at a crossroads. How you respond now matters. Many couples experiencing these exact issues have turned things around with the right support. Learn more about common marriage problems and solutions.
When Should You Consider Couples Therapy?
A lot of people think couples therapy is only for relationships on the brink of divorce. That's actually not true. Therapy works best when you catch problems early — before resentment builds up and communication completely breaks down.
Good times to consider couples therapy:
When you're having the same argument over and over without resolution. When you've been through something traumatic together (like infidelity, job loss, or the death of a loved one). When you're going through major life transitions like getting married, having a baby, or becoming empty nesters. Or simply when you want to strengthen your bond and learn better ways to connect.
What actually happens in couples therapy?
In sessions, you'll work with a therapist who helps you both feel heard and understood. You'll learn to identify negative patterns — like the Four Horsemen that predict relationship breakdown — and replace them with healthier ways of relating. It's not about the therapist taking sides or telling you what to do. It's about giving you tools to communicate better and reconnect.
If your partner won't go to therapy, you can still benefit from individual therapy. Sometimes when one person changes their approach, it shifts the whole dynamic.
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Frequently Asked Questions
This quiz is designed as a self-reflection tool based on relationship health indicators used by licensed therapists. It draws from evidence-based frameworks like the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy. While it's not a clinical diagnosis, it provides valuable insights into areas that may benefit from attention or professional support.
You can absolutely take this quiz on your own — your perception of the relationship is valid and worth exploring. That said, having your partner take it separately can provide interesting comparison insights. You might discover you see certain areas very differently, which is useful information for understanding each other better.
A low score doesn't mean your relationship can't improve — it means there's significant room for growth. Many couples who were on the verge of splitting up have rebuilt strong, fulfilling relationships with the right help. The fact that you're taking this quiz shows you care about making things better. Consider it a starting point, not a final verdict.
It depends on what you're working on and how committed both partners are. Some couples notice improvements within 8-12 sessions. Others benefit from longer-term work, especially if there's been infidelity or deep-seated issues. Many people start feeling hopeful after just a few sessions, even if the real work takes longer.
This is more common than you might think. You have options: you can start with individual therapy to work on your own patterns and responses. Sometimes when one partner makes positive changes, the other becomes more open to participating. A good therapist can also help you figure out how to have that conversation with your partner in a non-threatening way.
Absolutely. Every couple faces challenges — conflict is normal and even healthy when handled well. Research shows that it's not whether you fight, but how you fight and repair afterward that predicts relationship success. The goal isn't a problem-free relationship; it's learning to navigate problems together as a team.
Ready to Work on Your Relationship?
Whether you scored high or low on this quiz, everyone deserves a fulfilling relationship. Our experienced couples therapists can help you communicate better, resolve conflicts, and rebuild connection.
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This relationship assessment was developed by licensed marriage and family therapists at South Denver Therapy. It draws from evidence-based frameworks including the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and attachment theory to provide meaningful insights into your relationship dynamics.
We created this quiz because we know how hard it can be to see your own relationship clearly. Sometimes you need an outside perspective to recognize patterns that have become invisible to you. Our hope is that this tool helps you gain clarity — whether that leads you to seek professional support or simply gives you a better understanding of where to focus your energy.
For more relationship resources, explore our blog with articles on building emotional intimacy, conflict resolution strategies, and communication exercises.
Disclaimer: This quiz is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health assessment or treatment. If you're experiencing relationship difficulties, domestic violence, or thoughts of self-harm, please seek professional help immediately.