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Am I Stonewalling Quiz | Free Emotional Shutdown Assessment - South Denver Therapy

The Stonewalling Quiz

Are You Shutting Down or Shutting Out?

Discover Your Communication Patterns

We all have moments when difficult conversations feel overwhelming. Sometimes we withdraw to protect ourselves, but this can create distance in our relationships.

This quick assessment will help you understand if you might be stonewalling—emotionally withdrawing during conflict—and provide you with compassionate guidance on staying present, even when conversations get tough.

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    Understanding Stonewalling

    Stonewalling happens when we emotionally shut down during conflict. It's often a protective response to feeling flooded or overwhelmed. The good news? Once you recognize it, you can learn healthier ways to manage intense emotions while staying connected to your partner.

    Remember, everyone withdraws sometimes. What matters is developing awareness and learning new tools to stay present, even when conversations feel difficult.

    Important Note: This quiz is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or diagnosis. If you're experiencing relationship distress or emotional overwhelm, consider reaching out to a qualified therapist for personalized support.

    Frequently Asked Questions About Stonewalling

    What is Stonewalling?

    Emotional or physical withdrawal in conflict, often because of overwhelm or flooding.

    Why does Stonewalling happen?

    To avoid escalation or because the body is overloaded and needs relief.

    How can I stop Stonewalling?

    Take a 20 to 30 minute break to self-soothe, then return at a set time and share one clear response.

    What can my partner do?

    Acknowledge the break, avoid pursuing during it, and return gently at the agreed time.