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Take this free anxiety screening to see how your symptoms compare to common signs of anxiety. It only takes about 3 minutes, and you’ll get instant results—no email or signup required.

  1. Answer 7 Quick Questions

  2. See If Your Symptoms Match Anxiety

  3. Get Helpful Insights and Next Steps for Support

The Relationship Dance Quiz

Discover Your Pattern: Pursuer or Withdrawer?

Understanding Your Relationship Dance

Every couple has a unique "dance" – a pattern of pursuing and withdrawing that shows up during conflict or stress. Understanding your role is the first step to healthier connection.

This 3-minute assessment helps you see whether you tend to be the pursuer (seeking closeness) or the withdrawer (needing space) and what that means for your relationship.

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    Important: This quiz offers general insights about common patterns and isn’t a diagnostic tool.

    Frequently Asked Questions About Pursuer-Withdrawer Quiz

    What is a pursuer-withdrawer pattern?

    In distress, pursuers push for talk or answers; withdrawers shut down to reduce intensity. Both are attempts to feel safe, but together they create a chase-and-retreat loop.

    How can a pursuer create safety without chasing?

    Lead with feelings and one specific request: “I’m anxious; can we talk for 10 minutes about X at 7?” Slow your pace, share one need, and appreciate any engagement.

    How can a withdrawer stay present without freezing?

    Name your limit and offer structure: “I’m flooded. I can do 10 minutes after I reset.” During the talk, reflect one point you heard before offering your view.

    How do we break the cycle together?

    Agree on signals for flooding, time-outs with a return time, and short, focused talks. Celebrate small repairs to reinforce safety for both roles.