Open Relationship Readiness Quiz
Explore whether ethical non-monogamy aligns with your values, communication style, and relationship goals through this thoughtful assessment.
Discover Your ENM Readiness
This assessment evaluates five key areas: communication skills, jealousy management, boundary setting, motivation clarity, and relationship security. Answer honestly based on your typical feelings and behaviors.
When I have difficult feelings about my relationship, I'm able to express them clearly to my partner.
My partner and I can discuss sensitive topics without it escalating into conflict.
I feel comfortable asking for what I need in my relationship, even when it feels vulnerable.
When I feel jealous, I can observe the feeling without being overwhelmed by it.
I believe jealousy can provide useful information about my needs and values.
I have healthy coping strategies for managing difficult emotions like jealousy or insecurity.
I am able to clearly articulate my boundaries and maintain them even under pressure.
I respect my partner's boundaries, even when they differ from what I want.
I understand the difference between rules imposed on others and boundaries I set for myself.
My interest in ethical non-monogamy comes from genuine curiosity and alignment with my values, not from dissatisfaction with my current relationship.
I have taken time to educate myself about ethical non-monogamy and its challenges.
I understand that opening a relationship requires significant ongoing effort and communication.
I feel fundamentally secure in my current relationship and my partner's commitment to me.
I have a strong sense of self-worth that doesn't depend entirely on my romantic relationship.
I can tolerate uncertainty and uncomfortable feelings without needing immediate reassurance from my partner.
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Our therapists specialize in alternative relationship structures and can help you navigate this decision with clarity.
Schedule Free Consultation →What is Ethical Non-Monogamy?
Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) is an umbrella term for relationship structures where all partners consensually agree to have romantic, emotional, or sexual connections with multiple people. The key difference from cheating is complete transparency and informed consent from everyone involved.
ENM requires exceptionally strong communication skills, emotional regulation, and a secure sense of self. That's why this assessment evaluates your readiness across multiple dimensions rather than simply asking if you want an open relationship.
Whether you're curious about polyamory, swinging, or other relationship styles, understanding your current strengths and growth areas is the first step. Our couples counseling services include support for those exploring alternative relationship structures.
Types of Ethical Non-Monogamy
ENM encompasses a variety of relationship structures. Understanding the differences can help you identify what might align with your values.
Polyamory
Multiple romantic and/or sexual relationships with the knowledge and consent of all involved.
Open Relationship
A primary partnership that allows for additional sexual connections outside the relationship.
Swinging
Couples who engage in sexual activities with other couples or individuals together.
The 5 Factors We Assess
Research and clinical experience suggest that readiness for ethical non-monogamy depends on skills in these five interconnected areas. Understanding your attachment style can provide additional insight into how you might navigate ENM.
Communication
Jealousy Management
Boundary Setting
Motivation Clarity
Relationship Security
Frequently Asked Questions
What is ethical non-monogamy (ENM)?
Can opening a relationship save it?
What if my partner and I get different quiz results?
Does a high readiness score mean I should open my relationship?
Is couples therapy necessary before opening a relationship?
How do I manage jealousy in an open relationship?
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About This Assessment
This quiz was designed by licensed therapists who specialize in alternative relationship structures. It assesses multiple dimensions including communication skills, emotional regulation, attachment patterns, and motivations rather than simply asking if you want an open relationship.
The questions are informed by research on successful non-monogamous relationships and years of clinical experience working with couples exploring ENM.
Disclaimer: This assessment is for educational purposes only and is not a clinical diagnostic tool. Results should be used as a starting point for self-reflection and discussion, not as a definitive answer about whether ENM is right for you.
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