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Emotional Bids Quiz: Test Your Connection Skills | Gottman Method - South Denver Therapy

The Emotional Bids Quiz

How Well Do You Connect in Small Moments?

Discover Your Connection Style

In every relationship, we make dozens of "bids" for connection each day — small attempts to engage with our partner. How we respond to these bids can make or break our emotional bond.

This 3-minute assessment, based on Dr. John Gottman's groundbreaking research, will help you understand how well you recognize and respond to these crucial moments of connection.

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    Note: This quiz is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional relationship counseling. If you're experiencing significant relationship challenges, consider speaking with a licensed therapist who can provide personalized guidance.

    Frequently Asked Questions About Emotional Bids

    What is an emotional bid?

    An emotional bid is any attempt to connect—sharing a story, a joke, a sigh, a glance, or “Can you look at this?” Bids are the small moments that build or erode trust.

    What does “turning toward” a bid look like?

    You acknowledge and engage: eye contact, a nod, “Tell me more,” or brief help. Even a 10-second response counts and raises relationship satisfaction over time.

    Why do couples miss bids?

    Distraction, stress, phones, or assuming the other person “doesn’t need much.” Many bids are subtle; if you’re not looking, you won’t see them.

    How can we increase turning-toward moments today?

    Pick two daily windows with low phone use (breakfast, bedtime) and aim for five small responses: a smile, a question, a thank-you, a touch, or shared humor.